Being affectionate in a relationship is very important and, if you find that the affection is starting to fade, then you might begin to worry that things are coming to an end. Being in an affectionate relationship is always going to make you feel comfortable and secure but, while some people are worried about the affection fading in their relationship, there are others who actually have to try to cope with a partner who is addicted to affection. You might find it strange to hear that some people can be pushed away by too much affection but there are those who pile it on so thick, that it can actually scare their partner off. The best way to combat this is to find the middle ground.
When somebody has a clear affection addiction, you can find that they are always craving that romance and passion and, of course, affection from you. The message you at all times of the day and night, just to tell you that they love you, expecting you to reply the same back and in a quick and timely manner. If you are not as affectionate in your message as they are, or you are not quick enough with your response, then sometimes your partner can worry and assume that something is wrong.
Then there are those with affection addiction who want you to hug them and kiss them and tell them you love them all the time. While it is obviously important that you do make sure that your partner feels loved, it can sometimes feel impossible to make a partner with affection addiction really understand your ways of showing how you love them. They might want you to hug them to sleep every night, while you like to roll over the other way, or they might expect you to say “I love you” as soon as you wake up every morning when you are still too tired to even know you are awake.
At the end of the day, if you are with some who has an affection addiction and you do truly love them with all your heart, then the two of you are going to have to sit down and make some ground rules. Make it clear that you cannot always text them back right away, especially if you are busy with work, but make sure that you do reply as soon as you can. Come to an arrangement at bedtimes, agree to hug them for a while before you do finally roll over and go to sleep. Make sure you do tell them you love them before you get out of bed. You cannot give in to all of their needs and demands, as it will only make things worse. However, having some compassion and understanding, and being able to compromise will definitely help things.
Meanwhile, if you are the one with affection addiction, then you also need to find a way to control your emotions. Have trust, belief, and respect for your partner and don’t make them feel bad for not always doing all of the demanding things you put on them. Again, compromise will go a long way to making sure that you both enjoy a long and successful relationship together.
