If you are, it is COMPLETELY NORMAL!!! Does it mean you should end the relationship immediately? Of course not. Nobody is exactly what you want them to be, and even your dream person has things that will annoy you about them. If you are unsure about your relationship, you should ask yourself 3 questions.
- Why am I with this person?
So often when people have been in a relationship for so long they forget what it was like being single. They do not even think about why they are together or how they feel within the relationship and when the feelings of being an unsure start to rear their ugly head they are not sure why they are feeling that way. When that starts to happen to you, stop really think about whether you’re in that relationship because it is a healthy and satisfying relationship, or if it is because of fear of the unknown and complacency.
- How does this person make me better?
It is so easy to fall into a toxic relationship without even realizing it. Often, people in toxic relationships will become co-dependent because toxicity spreads and you will start to internalize their toxicity. This will lead to your friends avoiding you because they don’t want to hear you complain about things for hours on end. Obviously, everyone has spats here and there in their relationship, but your partner should be helping you to broaden your horizons and have a more satisfying life. If your partner isn’t doing that for you, then maybe you should think about making your exit.
- Are your needs being met?
Everyone has different needs in a relationship. Some people need to have ample space. Some people need to talk to each other constantly. Some people need to be told “I love you” after every conversation. Some people want to have the same friend circle. Some people want to have an open relationship. Some people do not want to have kids now or ever. Others feel that they need to become successful before they can even think about marriage. No matter what your needs are, it is important for your partner to be respectful of them. Even if your needs are unrealistic, both of you need to think about what your specific needs are and whether or not they are being met.
Just because you are unsure in a relationship does not mean you should immediately give up on it. Often asking yourself these important questions can remind you that things are just the way they should be. However, If you are not in the right relationship, it is alright. There really are plenty of fish in the sea and you can sign up for GoMarry.com to help you find the one for you!
