Love has its own foundation and intimacy is one of them. If you’re seeking pleasure you have to be intimate with your partner. Love certainly doesn’t make you a mind-reader so how do you ask openly for sex without seeming to be slutty. We all know that the language of words can be more powerful than that of the eyes. The book 50 Shades of Grey has lifted the taboo on who initiates sex, and as a result, women are much more willing to talk about their sexual needs.
Broadening your Sexual Horizons
Taking time to let your guy know what turns you on is a gift to yourself, and your man isn’t likely to complain either. It’s amazing how times and events change things. Way back it might have seemed unusual for a woman to ask her man for sex – but it is now commonplace in the bedroom. Women are much more sexually happy because of it. They feel that they are on the same sexual wavelength as their partner. You may feel that you can talk to your boyfriend or husband about everything but not about sex. You may not know how to tell him what you want without seeming to be needy or sluttish. Girls and women of all life experiences voice similar sentiments. They’d like to know how to convey the message across in the best way.
Hints and Signals
Some girls or women may greet a guy at the door in sexy attire and announce that they are serving one of his favorite meals – by candlelight. They may take a leisurely shower when they’re hinting at sex and wear seductive lingerie or perfume.
A Brash Approach – It will Work with Some Guys
You’d think it would be easy to just say ‘let’s have sex’ but this approach may work for some guys, but not for everyone. Some guys might find it blunt and unromantic, and other guys are just too reserved for such plain talk. This isn’t a conversation to talk about in front of your friends. Being brash and brazen might be a case of ‘familiarity breeds contempt’, and by talking about it in public, it somehow cheapens it, so it’s best to do your ‘sex talk’ in private. Another drawback to this sort of direct approach is that such an explicit suggestion requires an explicit yes or no answer from the guy which may make him feel uncomfortable. It can be scary to ask because it may appear as though you believe you’re as good as married and that you have certain privileges.
If you found a partner on the GoMarry.com website, things would be different then, as these are all like-minded people who have the same dreams and aspirations as you. If you’re still in your 20s, you may be considering what your life with your man will be looking like in 5 years time. Asking your partner what the future includes may give you an idea of how you want to proceed with your sexual advances. If there is no future you may not want to ask for sex.
Speak out about Your Sexual Desires
An invitation to have sex can be a compliment for a guy, indicating his desirability. You can tell him in person, but it’s the way it’s done. You’ll be able to see his facial expressions and if he’s ready to have sex. Women have always tended to take care of the man’s needs while placing their own needs at the bottom of the list. Things are changing now, and by knowing precisely how to tell your man that you want sex without feeling trampish will help you feel better and be better too.
