As someone who has lived all over the world, I have dated a lot. Did I mention that I dated a lot? I started dating in high school. I met my wife on GoMarry.com. I got married at 28 and have been happily married for 3 years now. While I’m married now, I remember the highs and lows of going from a serious relationship to tinder hook-ups back to a serious relationship only to have my heart broken again and again.
One common scenario was, I’d be in a relationship for a few weeks and everything would seem perfect. Then, my new friend would start to change. I wouldn’t hear them as much. Dates would get rescheduled a few times, and then all contact would stop. It would make me feel so sad and worthless.
Even more badly, that was the time during my single life when I couldn’t get a date. No one seemed the tiniest bit interested in me, nothing I did seemed right, and I felt like I was definitely going to die all by myself.
The thing is, I know for sure that dating is not hopeless! Here are 6 reasons you shouldn’t give up hope in your dating life.
- Every bad date you have brings you closer to the “one”.
Everyone we meet teaches us something. Just like the saying goes, “Not everyone will make it to your future. Some people are just passing through to teach you a life lesson.” When the right one does come along, you’ll know because of all the lessons you learned from the wrong ones.
- Dating is like job hunting.
You have to go on a bunch of interviews and then, after a while, you get an offer that seems like a good fit. Dating is exactly the same way!
- Don’t feel like you’re the only person who will never find the love of your life.
Every person who is in a happy, loving romantic relationship has been in your shoes before.
- There really are countless good people out there who are looking for the exact same thing as you!
It isn’t easy but knowing that should be such a refreshing thought. You are not the only one and someday you’ll find the one for you!
- If you never stop looking, most likely, you will find it.
It’s OK to take a break from dating from time to time and work on yourself or spend time with the people closest to you in your life. Just don’t give up!
- Your inner flame will never die!
No matter what, you will always have that yearning for love. No matter how much you try to distract yourself from it. Love is a part of life and as humans, we will always feel incomplete without it.
