Any breakup is hard to accept, but when the other person decides to break up with you out of the blue it may feel like you have been hit by a brick. The last word you want to hear is “now is just not the right time” or “I don’t see a future.” Being blindsided by a breakup makes you feel incomplete and often undervalued. You may even start to question your own thoughts and wonder if you missed a sign in the relationship. This situation was probably out of your control to start off with and it won’t be easy to change your ex’s mind. It is time to put on a brave face and move on.
The other person has already accepted their reality. They knew this was coming and had time to prepare emotionally. Now is the time for you to deal with your feelings and get over the relationship.
Acceptance
Accepting the other person’s decision is the best thing you can do for yourself. Their minds will not change. Accept their breakup, respect the decision and get to grips with the fact that you are now single. Coming to terms with the situation will be the best way to move forward. The relationship probably didn’t have a future in sight and the breakup would have been inevitable. It is just the timing that sucks.
Set Your Emotions Free
This is an emotional time and it won’t do you any good to bottle up your emotions. Cry if you need to, scream, pound a punching bag. Do what makes you feel better. Talk to a friend about the situation or any person that can listen to you without any judgment. Acknowledge your feelings and do not try to hide them. You need to get to the other side and back into a positive mindset.
Distract Yourself
You will suddenly stop seeing your ex and may have a lot of time on your hands. Distract yourself by playing music or practicing a hobby. Spend time with family and friends in a positive social setting. Do something for someone else, like helping out at a charity. Seeing other people smile will make you feel valued and help you believe in yourself. Open an online dating profile on GoMarry.com and read tips on how to make relationships successful.
Look to the Future
Letting go of the other person is not easy but that is what you need to do to go on with your life. Focus on the future and reflect on your actions. You might feel there are things that you need to change for other relationships to work. Treat this as a growing experience and do not regret your decisions. You will move on as a stronger person. You have this under the belt and can apply what you have learned in a future relationship. A blindsided breakup is one of the worst things that can happen to any person. Accept the situation and know that you cannot change how the other person feels. Let your emotions flow and bounce back when you are ready. You will get through this time in your life.
