Have you ever been involved in a relationship that has developed from something so beautiful, into a barrage of emotional abuse? There are some people who are currently in an emotionally abusive relationship, who do not even actually know that they are in one. Then there are those who know that they are in an emotionally abusive relationship but refuse to accept it or do anything about it. With that in mind, we have decided to give you a few points which can help you to learn whether you are in an emotionally abusive relationship or not.
One thing which you might begin to notice is that your partner is no longer allowing you to have any time or space of your own, always wanting to be with you, know exactly where you are or exactly what you are doing. They text you all the time and demand instant replies, otherwise, they start to think you are doing something you shouldn’t be doing. When you confront them about this, they defend themselves by insisting that they are just so worried about you and want to make sure that you are fine. Before you know it, you no longer see or hear from friends and family, instead only having your partner in your life.
Then there is their uncontrollable jealousy, whether it be of your friends, your family member, or the random person in the street he happened to look in your direction. They act like you are the one in the wrong and they are the victim, which leads to you believing this and agreeing to their every word. Once again, this is a way for them to slowly but surely take you away from your loved ones, so that they have you all to themselves and completely under their control, without anyone else to turn to.
As well as all of that, there are the continual put-downs which they fire your way, making you feel like you are useless and worthless, that you are not good enough for anyone. They will pick out little things and little ways to bring you down, from the way you do your hair, to what you are wearing, to your hobbies and interests. However, when you try to defend yourself about these things, they will turn it back on to you again, insisting that you have got it wrong and misunderstood what they were saying, again causing you to take the full brunt of the blame for this situation.
It is important that you know these points and can identify these points, in order to make sure that you do not let yourself end up in an emotionally abusive relationship. If you find that you are, then you really need to get yourself out of it and not let them talk you back around, no matter what, it is time to leave the relationship. The first chance you get, you need to leave them and return to your family, explaining to them what has happened. Never accept this situation as being normal because it is not and, if you don’t act now, it could get even worse.