It doesn’t matter how exciting and wonderful and amazing a relationship is in those early stages, it is eventually going to calm down and we are going to realize that everything does not have to be so full on for it to be a happy romance. However, while many of us settle into the day to day motions of a regular relationship, there are some of us who are unfortunate enough to find ourselves involved in a toxic relationship. We still love that person we are with but it is really not right that we stay with them, as it is not doing any good for either of us. The best thing to do when in a toxic relationship is to just walk away and, while the relationship has turned toxic, it is still possible to walk away with some dignity.
There are no doubt going to be plenty of things which you are going to blame your partner for, as the reasons why your relationship has turned so toxic, but at the end of the day, it is very likely that you both have things that you have done wrong and should have done better. For that reason, it really is important that you can accept your fair share of the blame for what has gone wrong. Take responsibility for the things that you are accountable for and hold your hands up to them, maybe even apologize for these things. However, don’t let yourself become the one who is taking all of the blame. It takes two to tango and your partner also needs to take their share of the responsibility too.
While your relationship has turned toxic and there are a lot of bad things which have happened, it is also important to remember that you can take the bad, then you can turn them into something which you can learn from in the future. Remember where things went so wrong and make sure not to make these same mistakes again in the future. It is also important that you let yourself forgive your partner for their part in the way things went so bad. Holding on to bad feelings and ill will is only going to make you feel bad for longer and could even have a negative impact on your next relationship. Let it go, forgive, and focus on having a positive future for yourself.
A toxic relationship can be something that will live with you for the rest of your life, but as long as you use it in your favor, it can become a positive rather than a negative. Don’t let what happened in this relationship dictate any of your future relationships. Live, learn and love is something that we should all live by. So leave with dignity, leave with your head held high and move forward towards a happy life.
