This Question is definitely a must ask question. Like it or not, his/her family will eventually become part of your family. And once married you will see your in-laws frequently, so your relationship with them will most definitely affect these visits and their frequency.
You’ll fail to make a strong new family of your own if your partner is not into families themselves. Questions to ask are:
- Are you close to your family?
- Are you or have you ever been alienated from your family?
- Do you have a difficult time setting limits with family?
- How important is it that you and your partner be on good terms with each other’s families?
- Do people in your family carry long-term grudges?
- How much influence do your parents still have over your decisions?
- How many siblings do you have?
- Are you close to your siblings?
- How often do you meet? When do you meet?
- How often do you meet your parents?
- Describe your relationship with your extended family.
- Is there any family member that you have fallen out with? if so who and why?
- How do you feel about living close to either one of your families?
