So you haven’t heard from your boyfriend all week, you’ve tried to get hold of him but he’s ignoring you, and your worrying is becoming intolerable. Before freaking out and assuming the worst case scenario, there are a few questions you need to ask yourself.
First off, you need to evaluate whether or not your relationship was in a stable place prior to this. If everything seemed to be running smoothly and there were no outstanding problems, then the abrupt silence would be even more concerning. With these circumstances in mind, it’s understandable to think that maybe something bad has happened to him and he can’t contact you. On the other hand, if this isn’t the case, then you may have another reason to be stressing out.
If the relationship has been erratic, it’s very possible that he’s losing interest in you and is simply not prepared to put in the effort anymore. If he’s been acting odd or distant, and you feel like the connection has been slowly fading, then there’s a good chance that he’s looking to pull away from the relationship, but he doesn’t have the courage to come clean and express what he has been feeling. It’s unsettling to not know where you stand with someone and it can drive you crazy. You can’t help but think that maybe he doesn’t love you anymore, or maybe he’s even cheating on you. It’s natural to jump to conclusions and in this scenario, I’d say these are valid assumptions. GoMarry.com has many articles that could have the answers to your situation.
The reality is that if he cared about you and he is able, he would do everything in his power to put your mind at ease and let you know that everything is okay. Seeing as he hasn’t done this, and presumably, you’ve done all that you can to try and contact him, the likelihood is that he’s given up on you. Nobody is so busy that they can’t take ten minutes out of their day to get in touch and let you know they’re thinking about you. If this goes on for a week, there’s no doubt that something is very wrong.
The most mature response would be to talk things through and let him know that this kind of behavior is unacceptable, but if you can’t reach him, then there are only so many other approaches you can take. Try getting hold of one of his friends or someone in his family, and see if they can contact him for you. If you’ve found that he’s okay and he’s just ignoring you, then it’s time to let him go. As the saying goes, don’t cross oceans for someone who wouldn’t step over a puddle for you. Let him go, and if he suddenly decides that he’s willing to communicate with you again, then you need to make the choice of either forgiving him and moving forward or shutting him out of your life just as he did to you.
