22. What are you looking for?

Choosing a life partner is the most important decision you will ever make and you have to find a person whom you can put up with and who, more importantly, can put up with you. This question is important because you get to know your own expectations and also share them with your potential life mate.

Considering the many things people look for in a partner, different people will have a different idea of what’s important. Some may be drawn to physical characteristics, while for others it may boil down to more specific traits like honesty, openness, supportiveness, creativity etc.

It is worth thinking about

  • The type of spouse you want? A housewife? A house-husband? A go getter… etc
  • Should the husband be a manly man? The wife a girly girl? etc

Everyone should be happy being who they are but you must be suitable for each other. And of course, don’t forget to talk about what compromises are you each willing to make for each other. This is important.

That said, don’t agree to make too many compromises as character based changes are often ingrained into us so deeply that most people rather forgo the relationship than to change character, so don’t fool yourself.

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