The feeling of being in a committed relationship can be one of the most comforting and joyous things you’ll ever experience in your life. Of course, everyone loves feeling loved and cared for. With that being said, no matter how great being in a relationship can be, feeling overwhelmed is quite normal.
There are a number of reasons you might be feeling overwhelmed. Maybe you are an introvert that needs their alone time and this relationship is taking that away from you. Or it could be that it is your first relationship and it feels weird to think of another person’s needs when you make decisions. Worse yet, maybe you feel that you have completely lost your sense of independence. These are just some of the things that might be making you feel overwhelmed but it could be any number of things. For everyone it’s different.
When the feeling of being overwhelmed goes unchecked, it can metastasize into anger and eventually, hate. While it is definitely something that needs to be addressed, it doesn’t mean that you should end your relationship or start pushing your new flame away. It just means that something’s need to be changed.
Here are 3 ways to deal with feeling overwhelmed by your relationship in a healthy way.
- Make sure you get your alone time.
If you and your significant other are together all the time, it could lead to you feeling depleted. That, in turn, will make it impossible to be a good partner. To make sure this doesn’t happen, make sure to hang out with yourself. Go to a coffee shop by yourself and read that book you’ve wanted to dive into. Sunbath at the beach. Learn something new. Whatever you do, do it alone!
- Know what makes you feel overwhelmed.
Is it the constant call and text? Is it that the relationship is moving too fast? Whatever it is, you have to understand it so that you and your partner can figure out how to best handle the situation. It is important, to be honest with your partner about what you are feeling otherwise it could become worse.
- Remember why you fell in love with your significant other in the first place.
It’s funny because being in a relationship can make us forget what we love about our partner. It is easy to get too comfy and stop trying. It can be the worst feeling in the world when your relationship is starting to feel like a chore. Stop and realize that the person you fell in love with is still there. That might help to make you feel less overwhelmed.
It’s normal to feel overwhelmed by a relationship whether it’s new or old. Considering someone else is never easy, especially when you are used to being independent. However, if you are open about what you are feeling and work through them with your partner, you should be able to change how you’re feeling.