You may be in a relationship with someone controlling without even noticing it.
Are you in a controlling relationship?
- They isolate you from friends and family.
When was the last time that you had a night out with your friends or that you went to visit your family by yourself? If the answer is something like, “I can’t even remember the last time I went out by myself.” You are most probably in a controlling relationship.
- They spy and snoop
You will find them snooping around your stuff, or logging into your phone when you’re not looking. Always check your messages, emails, and social media. They will be extremely jealous if you’re just looking in someone else’s way.
- Not giving you some alone time
They don’t want you to leave their sight, ever. So, they end up prowling around you. They are so scared that you’ll forget about them that they don’t respect the fact that you need some alone time, without them.
- Accusing you
Someone who is controlling will always make you feel guilty even if you haven’t done anything wrong. They always assume the worst. Accusing you of cheating, lying and other obscene actions just so that they can put you on a guilt trip.
- Making you feel unworthy
A controlling person will try to keep you in line by belittling you or trying to make you fight for recognition. Not ever praising anything you do and constantly putting you down. This is a mind game they are playing to become your controller.
- Tease and ridicule
There’s a difference between harmless teasing and way out bullying. If someone is bullying you, shoving you around and making you feel like dirt, it’s not playful teasing, but a tactic they use to control you.
If your partner ticks any or more of the above boxes, then they most probably are extremely controlling. You need to re-evaluate your relationship. Why are you with them and whether you still want to be with them. If they can’t work on their problems then it’s probably a good time to let them go.
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