There’s no doubt about it: humans are social beings and we’re meant to be in relationships with other persons, be it monogamous or different arrangements
We prioritize being with someone, anyone, over being alone. When we’re single, we might feel lonely, confused or left out due to peer pressure and society’s expectations.
Another reason why we choose to be in lousy relationships rather than single is the so-called phenomenon of single shaming. It’s a social custom which implies that people in relationships and marriage often make single people feel less worthy, criticize them or make them feel bad. This is one of the main reasons people hate being single. Our social nature makes us fear social embarrassment and judging even more than personal loneliness.
Due to these reasons, many people find it easier and simpler to stay in a not-so-perfect relationship than to be alone. Some of the traits of being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t care include:
No chemistry or vibes
If your relationship was a novel or a movie, it definitely wouldn’t be in the rom-com section or listed among the top love stories of all time. When you two are together, it looks like you’re with each other out of convenience and not true connection.
No common interests
Having things in common is an important cornerstone of developing connection and intimacy. When you’re with someone who doesn’t care about you, it’s usually a person that’s completely different from you. As egoistic beings, we usually care most about the people who remind us of ourselves.
Spending little time together
You often find excuses not to spend that much time together. When you schedule a date, you don’t look forward to it, but you feel that it’s more of an obligation than something you actually want to do.
Never planning for the future
A sure sign that someone doesn’t care about you is that they never envision you as part of their future. You’ve never discussed marriage, children, or even long-term prospects of your relationship. (If you want to be with someone who is surely interested in marriage, sign up at com.)
Not defining the relationship
When someone cares about you, it will be important for them to define your relationship and to define that you two are exclusive. If someone actually doesn’t care whether you’re dating other people as well, it’s a sure sign that they don’t care.
After reading all this, isn’t being alone for some time better than being in this kind of a relationship? Remember, if you’re afraid of being single, you’re closing yourself off to higher-quality relationships by staying in the train wreck that is your current relationship.
Take some time for yourself, work on your self-confidence and boost your independence and you will quickly see how you will attract new persons with completely different personalities. Being alone is always better than being in a bad relationship.
