Coping With Betrayal in a Relationship

Betrayal comes in all shapes and sizes and doesn’t have to necessarily mean cheating when it comes to relationships. Partner betrayal can mean anything that harms trust and shatters the stability of the relationship.

Why is a betrayal so detrimental to relationships?

Trust is the foundation of every relationship – and not just romantic ones. When you think about it, friendships, business relationships and all other forms of human closeness are based on trust.

When this trust gets broken, the relationship gets very, very weak. If the basis is gone, all the other additional perks are brought into question along with it.

What is betrayal in a relationship?

For many people, partner betrayal means physical cheating. However, it’s much deeper than that, and many things can harm trust in a relationship. These include:

  • Cheating
  • Emotional cheating
  • Lying
  • Manipulating
  • Being two-faced
  • Talking about your partner behind their back
  • Planning big things without consulting your partner

…and many more.

Can a Relationship Survive Betrayal?

We’ve written about this in a previous article and the answer is, in short, yes. Two people can continue to be in a relationship after one of them betrays the other. However, it’s under the condition that both partners are willing to work on it. It also implies changing the relationship dynamics and changing as individuals.

How To Cope With Betrayal:

  1. Take it Slow

Betrayal is an extremely hurtful experience. If you have experienced betrayal by your partner before, you definitely know what we’re talking about.

It’s important not to rush things, because things are definitely not going to get better in a matter of days.

If you try to suppress the pain and hurt and continue as if nothing happened, you’ll just deceive yourself and be even more hurt in the long-term. You might even experience explosions of anger, hurt and sadness caused by this traumatic experience.

After your partner betrays you, it’s crucial to take it slow and one day at a time. Time definitely heals all wounds and you’ll definitely be able to see things more clearly after you’ve had the time to put them in perspective.

  1. Don’t Engage in Revenge

A natural response to being hurt and betrayed can be to cause the same experience to the other person. However, this thinking and acting are hurtful and destructive. It won’t get you anywhere, but you’ll just cause hurt to a person you love, without feeling any better yourself.

Each time you notice any type of aggressive or destructive impulses, step away from the situation and try to find composure. You can do that either by distracting yourself or by tackling the problem head-on.

  1. Don’t Overanalyze and Overthink

When your partner betrays you, the next couple of months might look like a detective case of you trying to figure out what went wrong, when, and if it’s something that you did.

Every time you see yourself spiraling into overthinking, try distracting yourself or meditating.

This obsessive thinking about the thing that caused you to hurt won’t last forever, so make sure you take all the time you need. After that, you’ll be able to process things rationally and calmly.

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