We all have been at that stage in our life, where we have just come out of a relationship. And we want to jump straight back into another, as soon as possible. For some, this is simply to fill the big void that the breakup has leaves behind. For others, it is just a way of getting over your ex. 90% of rebound relationships never last, with very few making it past the two-month mark. With that in mind, is it actually possible for someone to have a healthy romantic relationship during a rebound period? I can say that it definitely is, but there will always be some things that need to be considered first.
For me, my rebound relationship was actually with a girl who I have known for many years. We became close friends and there always felt like there was some kind of connection there. But the timing was never right. However, when I split from my girlfriend, who I had been with for two years. It turned out that I and my friend were both single at the same time, for the first time ever. We didn’t jump straight into a relationship, but we did get close. Then, after about two or three weeks, we decided to give it a go and see where it would take us.
She was fully aware that I had just come out of a relationship. And I was fully aware that this was a rebound. Yet we grew close and I can honestly say that it was one of the most healthy and romantic relationships I had ever been in. This is because we both knew each other and the situation well. With that said, we did eventually bring our relationship to an end. As I had to relocate for work and the distance made things too difficult. We are still good friends to this day and I always see her when I go back to visit. So how can you make a rebound relationship healthy and romantic, and most importantly, last for as long as possible?
Rebound Period
The rebound period will vary from person to person, depending on the circumstances of the breakup. If you broke up with your girlfriend on good terms then it is more likely that your rebound period will be a short amount of time.
With that said though, if your break up was a messy one and did not end well then your rebound period will be much longer. It will take more time to really get over the breakup and be ready for a new romance.
Find Someone Familiar
As I said about my own experience, my rebound relationship was with someone I already knew very well and had liked for so long. If you are dead set on jumping straight into a rebound relationship and you want it to work then choose someone you know. The chances are, that if you get into a rebound romance with someone you are familiar with and who knows your situation, then there is more chance of you having a healthy and romantic relationship, as well as more chance of it lasting.
However, if you go in search of someone new and you start a rebound relationship with someone who you know nothing about, and who knows nothing about you, then the chances are that it won’t last long and will be lucky to make it to even two months.
Take the Time
The best piece of advice that I can give you is, when you come out of a relationship, take the time you need to get over your ex. Rebound relationships are difficult to make last, so don’t be so quick to rush in. Take the time to mourn the relationship and to make sure that you are 100% ready to move into a new romance. Only you will know when the time is right, so be sure that you have found yourself, then make the right decision at the right time.
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