It took me years to write this text because I’ve never thought of my partners as objects of sexual desire. Really. For me, the eyes and the smile are the first and foremost objects of desire.
As time passed by, I found that high sex appeal comes along with many factors that have nothing to do with sex actually.
Long conversations, romantic encounters, sipping on a cup of coffee, sunsets, and sunrises bring you closer to your partner more than anything. And when you decide to make love, wow…you will feel that high sexual appeal believe me…In every touch, every breath and every sigh.
Sometimes it will take you longer to feel it, but when you feel it will be real. On the other hand, if you just want to hook up with someone the appeal will be obvious on the very first date but no one can guarantee you that it will launch in a relationship.
On the other hand, expectations and standards set by the modern, virtual world are very high and if you believe in them you’ll only feel disappointed. They preach about goals that are almost impossible to achieve and get you frustrated and change you in a worse person, the jealous one than you really are.
According to them, you have to be the smartest one and of the best caliber. Your physical beauty is the most important standard you have to achieve, and you have to be shallow enough to judge a book based on its covers during initial encounters.
If you fail to meet one or more of these standards your self-esteem will be hurt. And when this happens it creates even more of a distance between you and your truest self. Would you really want to lose your true nature for the sake of being a template for cover page fashion magazines?
I believe not.
What to do then to be sexually attractive to yourself first and then to the others?
It’s very important to take care of your hygiene. I know it sounds awkward, but it helps you feel, look, and smell your best throughout the day. It will raise your confidence too, and self-confidence is one of the crucial factors when it comes to high sex appeal.
Take care of your inner beauty trying to feel good about yourself. Simply imagine that you’ve already had a partner. Please do this. Be ready as if you will have new encounters every day. Wear your favorite items every day if you work from home. The same rule applies if you head to the office. It’ll make you more like yourself and, it’s comfortable enough to feel at home. The moment you get this feeling you’ve increased your confidence you will feel more sexually attractive too.
And to be honest, you know you’re about 93 million miles away from Marilyn Monroe or Joseph Stalin (see his bio, he was really handsome!). And if your partner doesn’t feel instantaneously attracted to you, don’t cry. You can always find another guy. Or simply stay with this one until he notices that the star is born. And that star is you.