For those of you who are not already familiar with the term codependent relationship, it actually refers to a way in which you allow your relationship with one of your loved ones to become rather unhealthy. The majority of the time, being in a codependent relationship will see you caring for your loved ones so much and worrying about them so much, that you start to forget to take care of yourself and make sure that you are doing fine yourself, which can often result in you losing your identity. Here we are going to explain how you can spot the signs of being in a codependent relationship and what to do to improve things.
Now when it comes to looking for the signs over being in a codependent relationship, then one of the first things you are going to notice is that you have very low self-esteem. You are going to also have very low self-confidence and not feel like you are good enough. As well as that, you will feel a growing sense of anxiety, while you will also find yourself feeling depressed more and more. Meanwhile, you are going to feel like everything is getting on top of you and that the stress of it all is starting to get a bit too much.
Next, you are going to find that you are always struggling to say no to that person you are caring for, as well as finding it difficult to be open and honest with that person. There is also going to be such an urge for you to be liked and loved by anyone and everyone, while also rejecting your own emotions and feelings, wants and needs. Your fear of abandonment will grow all the time and you will find yourself having intimacy issues too.
While all of that does sound very daunting, it is not all as scary as you might first think, as there are ways for you to combat this.
Now the best way for you to get yourself out of a codependent relationship situation is for you to take some time to yourself, sit down and do a serious evaluation of yourself, in order to determine if you are definitely in a codependent relationship. Find the key areas from the points mentioned, which most describe you and your relationship, then put more focus, time and effort into improving those aspects of your life and relationship.
Next, make sure that you are keeping people around you who are having a positive influence on you, your life and your behavior. The kind of people who are going to be there for you and give you all of the support you need and require. You are going to have some good days but also some very bad days and you need to have people in your life who are happy to let you vent your feelings to them without judging you.
Finally, it the worst comes to the worst, then you might want to consider actually taking a break from the relationship altogether. Give yourself some time and space from the relationship and allow yourself to remember exactly who you really are. Once everything has become clear, you can decide to try to get back to those relationships but with the new, you making new changes or keep things apart completely.
Being in a codependent relationship does not have to rule your life. If you are in one, then do something about it, now.