There’s a funny adage that goes “there’s no such thing as bad or awkward sex”
However, for all those that experienced first-time sex in a relationship know that things usually go quite bad and awkward.
If you’re looking forward to finally having sex with your new partner, but you are afraid of the first-sex awkwardness, read these tips:
Talk About Sex Beforehand
If you discuss sex and sexuality before you do it for the first time. You will probably feel much more comfortable and relaxed, which will make things less awkward.
You can talk about your likes and dislikes. What you are like in bed, etc. Never criticize some of your ex-partners because your new partner might start feeling anxious about disappointing you. If you don’t want to experience bad sex, talk about sex. But make sure you do that without going into your past in too many details.
Don’t Rush Into It
In our modern times, it’s become quite conventional that couples have sex very early on in the relationship. Sometimes they even go for the real thing on the first date.
It’s no wonder that things can become awkward: you barely know the person. So, if you’re looking to have a great, pleasurable experience. Take the time to get to know the person before sleeping with them.
For many people, waiting to have sex until marriage is very important. If you share these beliefs, you can meet like-minded people on GoMarry.com. On our website, you can find a number of individuals who don’t want bad sex. They are rather interested in marriage and starting a family.
Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay
When the time finally comes (preferably, after you’ve already been seeing each other for a while). It’s good not to rush into the act itself. First-time sex is often awkward because foreplay is too short. Short foreplay makes the act of sex itself somewhat rushed, clumsy or weird.
If you don’t want to jump into bad sex, take your time and do foreplay right. You will comfortably slip into the sex mode without rushing things. Take all the time you need: the longer the foreplay, the more relaxed you will both be.
Keep It Light and Casual
Much like all things in life, first-time sex is awkward because we place so much importance on it. If we are with a new partner who we like, we might also think that there’s a possibility that it will be bad sex. Bad sex will ruin your prospects of being together in the long-term.
This places enormous importance on sex, which is bound to be clumsy the first time around since you are still getting to know each other.
When something is perfect for the very first time, there would be no room for improvement, right?
So, as your relationship matures and you spend more time together, you will see how your sex gets better. Spending quality time together will make sex more natural and more passionate. You will feel more connected and intimate.
Remember, if you end up marrying your new partner, you will probably laugh about your first sex experience. Don’t take it all so seriously and remember to have a great time.