Few human feelings are uglier and more damaging than jealousy. In plain language, jealousy will kill your relationship, fuel unnecessary anxiety, and set you on a path of self-destructive loneliness. Luckily, overcoming your jealous mind is easy to do and with a little mindful practice, you can undo any hurt you have caused. If you are in an overly jealous relationship, check out this article.
We will start with the big one. Acceptance. Knowing with certainty that you have no control over how other people behave or the decisions they make. When you feel yourself spiraling into a jealous rage, ask yourself one simple question; do I have the right to control this person? In case you were wondering, the answer to that is no. Nobody has the right to control another person. The only control you have is how you react and how you manage your feelings and behavior. The sad reality is if your partner is going to cheat, they will. There is absolutely nothing you can do about it other than coping with your pain and betrayal after the fact.
Loving others starts with loving yourself. Knowing that you are a person who is deserving of love will prevent you from being jealous of those who have love. On the flip side, if you are feeling jealous because of your behavior (projection), you will need to forgive yourself and accept the consequences of your behavior without punishing the other person for your mistakes.
Bringing jealousy over from an old relationship because of betrayal or a cheating partner is relationship suicide. Seek out stories of change, hope, and positivity to restore your faith in humanity. Finding stories of change will help you see that no one person is alike, and that change is possible.
Boredom creates discontent. You are more likely to become jealous or fixate on your partner’s behavior if you are left with too much free time. Finding a hobby that keeps you physically and mentally active will distract you from feelings of jealousy and will surround you with people who are like-minded and positive. Just like you distract a toddler from a tantrum, distracting your mind from a jealous loop is incredibly effective.
Not to be confused with self-love. If your self-esteem is low, you probably do not feel that you are worthy of love and will seek to self-sabotage your relationship. Surrounding yourself with people who build your self-esteem and cultivating a positive image of yourself will help you to accept that you are deserving of love and that you are not in competition with anyone other than yourself.
Acknowledging that you are a human being and that the people around you are human too will help you to deal with the issues that trigger your jealousy. No one person is perfect, what they lack may just be something you are excellent in. Learning to work together to bring out the best in each other is a wonderful way to curb jealousy.