Ever since the infamous episode of Friends has been aired, where Ross and Rachel were “on a break” the term seems to have grown and grown, with so many more people taking a break from their relationship these days than ever before.
What some people fail to realize about the term taking a break, is that it is not actually the same as breaking up and there are a few things you need to remember about it.
Just because a couple has decided to take a break, it does not necessarily mean the end of a relationship. While some people use taking a break as a way to slowly bring their failing relationship to an end, there are plenty of other people who see it as a way of taking the first step towards getting back to where the relationship needs to be.
However, if you are intending on trying to make the relationship get back to its best, there are a few things you will need to remember.
When you decide that you and your partner are going to take a break, then you need to use this time wisely and make sure that you are both taking the time to think about where things have gone wrong and what needs to be done to make things better.
Taking a break is not an excuse for you to go out and party with your friends, acting like nothing is wrong. It is a time to reflect on where things need improving. Set a deadline on your break and agree on a time when you will come back together, at which point you will both have things that you are going to want, and need to discuss.
During your break, make sure that you don’t cut off contact completely though, but do try to limit just how much you are going to talk to one another, as space is important to realize what it is you need from the relationship.
One of the most important things about taking a break is making sure that you do not do what Ross did in Friends, and sleep with someone else. In fact, you should not even be thinking about anyone else at all.
Your time should be spent focusing on the pros and cons of the relationship. What has worked so well and what is going to need working on.
Use this time to get your own life in the shape you want it to be too so that when you go back you are the best possible version of yourself.
Finally, when it does come to the moment that you are going to get back together, you both need to make sure that you are 100% committed to making it work. If not, then a breakup might be in order, but if you still want to stick together, you need to give it your everything, listen to one another and make the changes needed to make your relationship work.
As we said, going on a break doesn’t mean breaking up and it also doesn’t give you a free ride to go wild. Use the time wisely. Focus on the ways in which your relationship can grow and improve. Focus on becoming a better you. And focus on staying together to dig happiness for both of you.