For newlyweds the honeymoon phase is a scientifically proven phenomenon, referring to the euphoric sensation of love that typically lasts between six months and one year
After that, it is very common for couples to tend to get stuck in a rut. And with the mundanity of each passing minute, the marriage can easily become, well, less exciting.
You don’t have to go to extremes to capture the same romantic feeling you had when you first met or newlyweds.
There are numerous small changes you can make in your day to day life that will help to spice up a stale marriage. (https://articles.gomarry.com/how-to-spice-up-a-stale-marriage/)
Most of the time simply making a few changes to an old tiresome routine is what is needed to again feel like newlyweds.
The key to that wonderfully exciting and romantic feeling can be found in the rush of spontaneity and unpredictability. There are so many ways to enjoy each other’s company, even if you haven’t managed to find common ground as of yet.
Seek Common Interests to Feel Like Newlyweds
Begin by brainstorming together about activities and common interests that you can explore as a couple. You can also include the possibility of starting a new hobby together.
Think like your eighteen-year-old self. It’s all about having as much fun and relaxation as possible. But only now you have the added advantage of financial stability and more brains.
There are so many things to choose from!
TV and reading are great, but they don’t involve much talking so you might want to try and think about some alternatives.
Most people enjoy walking in nature or connecting over food by sitting down for a meal together.
Research fun activities in your area you can do together once or twice a week.
Keep it fresh by creating a list of different ideas so that you don’t fall into a boring pattern again. For example, you could go for a long drive for one week and spend a day at a concert the next.
It’s great to have a variety of adventures planned so that you can choose based on weather and finance as needed.
Read about interesting things to enhance conversations with your lover.
Constantly seek out new knowledge and work on improving yourself as a person.
If you are constantly changing and bettering yourself your partner will need to stay on their toes to keep up. It will be exciting for your partner to constantly meet new versions of you. It will give them the opportunity to fall in love with you over and over again.
If you need to take drastic measures then you always have the following two options:
Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
My aunt and uncle had been married for twenty-five years. When my aunt decided that she wanted to go and teach English in Korea. She spent a year away from my uncle and they grew much closer as a result. They missed each other tremendously and realized how much they relied on each other for emotional support and company.
Sometimes shaking things up a bit is the best way to rekindle the lost spark in a marriage.
You don’t have to move to another country for a year though. Simply booking a solo trip or staying with a friend for a few weeks could be the turning point in your relationship.
Make sure you clearly communicate your intentions for the “break” to your partner. It will make them understand what you are doing comes from a place of love.
Tantra:
Tantra is the art of fully engaging with life by learning to open your heart, mind, and senses to the present moment.
It heightens the experience of life and as a result, can also enhance a couple’s bond. Tantra includes many techniques such as meditation, deep gazing, affirmations, the yab yum position, practicing conscious sensuality and many more. These mindful practices are known to improve relationships and are truly worth exploring further!
