The theory of opposites attracting seems like an idea born out of Hollywood rom-com–dom. Boy meets girl, girl, and boy like different things, they fight and disagree, but ultimately they fall in love and sail into the sunset together. Sound familiar? Yeah, we’ve all seen a film or two like that. And clearly, life is not always as black and white. Do relationships that begin with heavy disagreements and fundamentally different ideas bound to work? Well, the answer to that is yes and no.
Reasons That Opposites In A Relationship Work
- It’s super exciting. It could be an incredible turn on that someone has qualities that are unfamiliar to you.
It could keep things unpredictable and fresh. And your opposite’s viewpoints keep you on your toes.
- Your partner has qualities that you respect and admire. If you are a shy person, and your man or girl is outgoing and loves the life of the party – your coupling can work quite nicely. Sometimes we tend to choose people that have characteristics we would like in ourselves. This is actually quite a common phenomenon.
- The mystery and mystic of someone new and different are utterly too irresistible to give up. Someone who is just like us can be boring and stale. And those opposite to us can spice up our lives in more ways than one. You’re grounded in routine – she’s/he’s spontaneous and grab-life-by-the-seat-of-your-pants type. It’s experiencing life through someone else’s eyes, and it’s thrilling.
Reasons That Opposites In A Relationship Won’t Work
- Your ideas and values are just too dramatically different. Religious, political, social values are just a few deal breakers for relationships. If it goes against your fundamental core ethics, it won’t work in the long run.
- You don’t grow together. Yes, you may start out with differing points of view, but you just never synced up. When forming a couple, it’s like two heads of state coming together to form a new country. If they can’t strike a balance, then war is on the horizon.
- Familial differences can tear apart a relationship. Family culture is so important for so many of us, and if there are such glaring disparities than a couple may just call it quits. Love is sometimes not enough to keep us together.
Think back to your previous relationships, and those of your family and friends – I bet that several of them are in relationships with people that are wholly different. What kind of differences? How did they make it work? Was it an easy relationship or was it rifted with conflict? How long did it take to figure out you weren’t right for each other? Hopefully, by now we all know the difference between love and lust, nonetheless, it can be difficult to see your way out of a heady lust affair. But, once you’re able to come up for air – tell me, is the theory of opposites attracting just a figment of rom-com design or is there actual truth to clashing personalities finding love?