When it comes to having a long and happy relationship with your partner, one of the most important things you are both going to need to have and earn is trust.
You need to earn the trust of your partner and they need to earn the trust of you, then things will begin to grow from there in a happy and loving way.
However, once one of you starts to lie and that trust has been lost, things are going to have to start from square one again, but this time it is going to be a lot harder to earn that trust back again. With that said, if your partner has lied to you and you are struggling to know if you can ever trust them again, rest assured that it is possible and you can get that love and happiness back.
The first thing that you are going to need to do, in order to be able to start trusting your partner again, is to want it to work again. You both need to sit down and talk about what has happened, openly and honestly, talk about what it is going to take to get things back to where they need to be.
Be willing to trust again:
If necessary, you could both agree to set some targets together and work towards getting that trust back, as it is not going to just happen overnight. So be aware of what it is that you are going to need in order to trust again, make your partner aware of what you are going to need, and also be willing to hear them out and agree to some of the things they are to say.
Yes! forgive him or her, it is a very important thing that you make your lover realize his mistake if they are now aware of the guilt, let it go and forgive him.
You cannot hold on to what has happened and you cannot keep using it to throw back on their faces when something goes wrong. Staying glued to rows and digging things won’t ever help. Get over your concerns, forgive him and move on to find your new share happiness from the mutual bond.
Finally, if you are ever going to be able to trust your partner again, you need to make sure that you are both as open and honest as you can be, about everything. Talk about the things that work in your relationship and the things that need to be worked on. Talking is the key to any and every successful relationship, so make sure that you are both willing to talk everything through. It is not going to be easy for you to just trust your partner again but it is possible that, in time, you can get back to where you want to be.