The brutal truth about relationships is that it is not what they make you believe it to be. Relationships are constant work. It is truly like a second job. You have to get up every morning and go to work on your relationship. Every conversation, every kiss, every missed glance has an effect on the future of your relationship. You need to commit yourself fully to this other person, and keep committing yourself each and every day. You must remind yourself daily to not fall into a rut where you look past the little things you used to enjoy with – or love about this person. We get so used to each other so easily that we forget to put in that little bit of extra effort. Take a look at this article which converts a couple of usual lies about marriage into brutal truths.