When you’re in the middle of an emotional rollercoaster, sometimes it can be hard to figure out whether to stay or go. Over time situations and people change, and sometimes compatibility shifts with this
If it feels like your relationship has come to a standstill, either something needs to change radically, or you need to move on. However the fact that you are reading this is a clear sign that there is uncertainty, and in an unclear situation, there is still hope.
At the end of the day, only you will know what is worth fighting for. And you will need to make that decision for yourself. If you are unsure whether your relationship is at a complete standstill or not, read on to find out your next move.
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Signs it’s Time to Move On
You will know things are at a standstill if you and your partner aren’t talking more than absolutely necessary. The conversation is based on common courtesies or arrangements and neither of you has said “I love you” in months.
The standstill becomes clear when you literally stop spending time together (even in front of the TV). Instead, you feel lost, disconnected and lonely, even when you are around them. You miss the good old days and wish you could go back to where you were at the beginning.
You have little to no physical contact, and you begin to suspect there might be someone on the side. Even if you are wrong, the fact that your trust has disintegrated to this point is a telltale sign that your relationship has come to a complete standstill.
The most telling sign that your relationship has reached the end, is whether your partner shows motivation towards changing their behavior or not. Narcissists, psychopaths, and dark triad personalities will never change.
Sadly, there can be aspects that you love about a person, juxtaposed with a completely unacceptable or incompatible behavior. It will do you no good to hold onto a fantasy of who they could be if there is no sign of a desire for self-development.
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Where to from here?
You have probably already attempted to fix this in every way you can. And yet nothing seems to be working. It takes two to tango, and if you and your partner can’t see eye to eye, the sad reality is that it might be time to move on.
If you have reached the point where everything turns into a fight and one (or both of you) are threatening to break up frequently. Well! then you might as well just accept reality and do it right now. As resentment grows between you two, the last of the flame will be extinguished and you will be left with nothing but ashes to hold to.
It’s time to rise like the phoenix you are and rebuild your life and identity without them.
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