If you have even been in a relationship with a narcissist, you must know that once they have a hold over you, it’s almost impossible to let go
Dating this type of person can be very complex, energy-consuming and destructive.
You get stuck in this unhealthy relationship for months or years until the narcissist decides they have had enough of you.
It’s very hard to recognize a narcissist in the beginning phases of your relationship. Since dating as a concept implies false presentation of one’s qualities, a full-blown narcissist can easily slip under your radar.
It’s only after months or even years of dating that you realize that you’re dating a selfish, manipulative and emotionally stunted individual.
Now that we have explained how people find themselves in relationships with narcissists in the first place. It’s time to present a plan on how to set boundaries with a narcissist. Whether you’re considering breaking up, or your narcissist is manipulating you into postponing it. If you simply want to stay in this relationship regardless of your partner’s flaws, read on.
- Keep An Eye Out For Manipulation
Manipulation is the specialty of all narcissists. This is the skill that allows them to create a firm grip over a person and their sense of self-worth.
A narcissist will manipulate you into doing everything he wants.
When you’re dealing with a narcissist, you always have to be on the lookout for this. Even though it seems time-consuming and hard. You can try to interpret their actions so you don’t get manipulated into doing something you don’t want to do.
“Don’t Negotiate With Bullies”
Negotiation and compromise is an important conflict resolution tactic, but there are some instances where it’s counter-productive. For example, if you’re compromising with a bully – namely, the narcissist – you’re giving up 100% of your power because they have succeeded to make you compromise even in the slightest. With a narcissist, it’s important to stand your ground and don’t fall for their emotional traps.
Don’t Accept Emotional Ultimatums
Speaking of emotional traps, ultimatums are a tell-tale sign that you’re dealing with a manipulative person (a narcissist). An emotional ultimatum is any kind of this-or-that statement which aims at your emotions, self-confidence, shame, guilt or other feelings. One example of a classic, yet very transparent emotional ultimatum is “If you really liked/loved me, you would…”.
Don’t Put Them First
A narcissist will want to simply be in control of your life and put themselves between your family, friends, hobbies and even yourself. If you feel this happening, no matter how much you love them or want to be with them, don’t succumb to their manipulative and self-centered tactics.
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